I’d heard of Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) for adults, but I hadn’t considered its applicability for children. I thought I should find out a bit more so I’m delighted to invite NLP specialist Arantxa de Dios onto my blog today to share her thoughts. My take-away is that the term NLP makes it sound a lot scarier and more complicated than it actually is: NLP is basically the language of the brain, i.e. communication. That’s like parenting 101, but we all need tools to help us put common sense into practice, so over to her …
Hi, I’m Arantxa. Parenting was, and continues to be, the most challenging thing I have ever done! Before starting my self-development journey, I would get cross and frustrated with my child and ultimately with myself. I knew that what I was doing wasn’t working: it wasn’t getting the result I wanted and often seemed to make things worse. And I didn’t like myself for what I was saying and doing, day in day out … but I didn’t know what else to do. I seem to be saying no all the time shouting and “losing it” focusing on the negatives and feeling guilty.
I wanted to become more confident and competent as a parent to feeling more in control and least of myself! I wanted something better something more useful and sustainable for myself and my children. I wanted to be the best version of me. And I decided to become a life coach and then I trained as a neuro – linguistic programming (NLP) and hypnotherapist practitioner.
With NLP which focuses on getting the results you want, especially using languages and behaviour to positively influence those around you. It had an immediate and major impact on my life for the better. I’m a calmer and happier Mum!!
Good communication skills are often overlooked or taken for granted and yet they are at the heart of positive, fulfilling relationships. How you relate to and communicate with your child makes all the difference!
NLP gives you methods for communicating effectively with your children, nurturing mutual respect, confidence and happiness in your relationships. It gives you ways to:
- choose words that work to get great results, quickly and easily
- use actions that help you understand your child better
- change your thoughts in challenging situations, to find new solutions
- be in a better mood more of the time, for everyone’s benefit
- enjoy learning alongside your children on your parenting journey.
In parenting is very important you focus on YOUR needs, as well as the needs of your children. You are a key part of the relationship and have a major effect on the results you get.
YOUR CHILDREN NEED YOU
When it comes to parenting, they are not the right answers, no universal solutions, no absolute truths. There is only the here and now of what is going to work for you and your children, moment by moment, on your parenting journey. You are the expert on your family and your children. You are in the front line no matter how well intentioned the advice of others, it is you who must decide…and who must live with the consequences.
Parenting can be frustrating, overwhelming and sometimes utterly exhausting. But it can also be the most rewarding, inspiring and joyful experience too. I’m here to show you how you can make parenting easier, so you can feel confident and enjoy your precious time with your children.
Enjoy your Journey!
Arantxa De Dios
Transformational LIFE COACH, NLP & HYPNOTHERAPIST.
If you’re based in London, you might be interested in this workshop that Arantxa is running.
PARENTING WORKSHOP: POWERFUL NLP METHODS TO STAY ON TOP OF CHALLENGING SITUATIONS.
RESULT= YOU FEEL MORE IN CONTROL – CALMER – HAPPIER AND MORE POSITIVE.
More details here: